Synchronization of Us

This Movie seems to be a hot topic right now and im coming across discussions regarding it daily (check out the free download from Netflix i think, im not a member though) . So far i have only watched the first 30 minutes or so (to many nights dealing with a screaming baby led me to pass out around 8.30 last night) and i can already see why its causing people to talk so much.

I have always felt confused at the way the US handles childbirth. The doctors? The Inductions? C-Sections? Im honestly amazed the amount of people induced before there due date for no reason , here it would only happen for medical reasons . Repeat C-Sections are discouraged and of course Midwifes handle everything.

This movie is not the point of the blog post though, im wanting to talk about the “business” of my upcoming birth.

I have mentioned briefly on this blog my desire for a homebirth, this is something i have dreamed about aslong as i can remember (long before Rebecca was born) . I was not brave enough to try with my first and after her problems thought it would never be possible. After Eilidhs birth i started reading and talking to others and started to come to the conclusion that there was no reason i couldn’t have one .

Yesterday i put the wheels in motion with my midwife, for some reason even mentioning it terrified me . Its crazy i know, law states over here that a woman is free to give birth in the place of her choosing - if that is at home then they have to support and provide two midwifes for the labor and birth. Sounds simple but in reality there is not alot of support behind this, alot of scare tactics are used (saying baby is to big/small , mum is at risk for something , anything really) or the plain old not enough staff to cover it so you need to come in . I imagine alot of people are put off by this and agree to the hospital plan but as i said i have spent alot of time reasearching this topic and know to ignore most of what they are saying - im not going to completely ignore them , if there is a genuine reason i was happily birth in hospital “Baby Mac” is whats important.

Yesterday afternoon i also attended a local homebirth support group, it was the first meeting and only 4 of us were present. Its sure to grow with time and it was lovely to spend the time with the other woman - one 6 weeks after her first homebirth and two other pregnant ladies. The group runs ever month and they are many exciting events planned for it - talks from doulas, hypnotherapy couches, reflexology lessons. The NHS (Our health service) is providing a couple of birth pools for the group so im hoping to be able to rent one of those and save myself the £50.

I have spent alot of time thinking about the type of birth i want, this may be our last child (it also may not, at the moment we are leaning towards the last but things may change) and i really want to at least give these dreams ago. I am hoping the baby will be born in the water, and im hoping to be the one to deliver her/him. Unassisted birth is another topic i have time looking into and reading - im not wanting to go 100% as i wish to have the midwifes there “just in case” but im planning to refuse any type of checks and to ask the midwifes to just sit back and leave me in charge  .

So no membrane sweeps, breaking waters, checking for dilation - just me letting my body do its own thing (of course i reserve the right to change my mind on any of these things, but it will be on my terms rather than the midwifes say so).

Part of me is so focused on the birth i forget that after it comes the child and all those terrifying/fun parts

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