Baby Blues
February 16th, 2009 | 
Author: As hubby so kindly pointed out the other night i have been the biggest grouch lately . I tried to pass it off with im tired/stressed but at the core he really is correct . He makes jokes and i bite his head off, he cannot seem to do anything right - im so quick to get annoyed at him and the kids.
Im so blessed with my 3 miracles, i love each of them in ways i cannot describe but there also HARD work . The girls seem to constantly fight and Ru never seems happy.
Eilidh is also misrable these days , everything causes her to cry and she is waking at least once every nigth breaking her heart . Ru is in a horrible pattern at night of waking and feeding (i sleep while he is feeding) then crying till he goes back down (he will not sleep with me) - 15 minutes later he wakes again.
Today Ru at least seemed better and took 2 long naps (one for 3 hours and another for 3.5) , im really hoping it was a growth spurt and he will no longer be so grumpy.
Even when the kids are fine i find its taken its toll on me. One of them always needs something from me and the housework always need done . Im so scared of people thinking i cannot cope and taken them away from me.
I love them all, i love my life and im so blessed to be a stay at home mum . I don’t think i have PND , don’t feel depressed in the slightest - its more feeling constantly stressed and tired.
I need to get out this funk , need to stop worrying and taken it out on my hubby. I need to stop feeling jealous of him with his full night sleeps and days away from the chaos . As he pointed out i choose to breastfeed and choose to be a stay at home mum . I also know these days will not last forever , i need to try and enjoy it before there gone for good
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February 16th, 2009 4:34 pm
You know what? I reckon you have to accept that feeling tired and stressed IS going to happen sometimes. You can’t possibly do EVERYTHING that’s needed - I don’t think anyone could do that without breaking down completely.
You can’t not feel that you can never do enough - it’s natural. Try to accept that you’re angry/annoyed/stressed/tired or whatever instead of always trying to get rid of it, cause then you’ll just end up MORE annoyed when you don’t magically manage to snap yourself out of it!
((huge hugs))
February 17th, 2009 2:19 am
Men are unfortunately not the place we should see solace during these times. Even just my hubby saying that to me would PISS ME OFF no end. Yes, they do sleep all night, and get to go off to work. They think that THEY have the hard deal being the one to go to work. HA HA HA. Boy do they ever have it wrong.
I found what helped me is that I made a list of all the things I do in the day, and it’s a surprisingly long list. Guys don’t realise that when you’re home with kids all day, and you tidy the kitchen, 5 minutes later it is messy again, and they think (when they swan in from work) that its STILL dirty from the morning. Writing down everything I was doing gave me ammunition when the husband would come home and moan about the house. Sometimes a girl needs ammo!
February 17th, 2009 3:58 pm
Sure, we all need to get out of the funk. But at the same same, we need to accept that they WILL come from time to time. It’s normal. Mothering three yound children is exhausting and overwhleming. It doesn’t make you a bad mother because you’re exhausted and overwhelmed.
February 19th, 2009 3:16 am
Oh no, hope you’re feeling happier soon. I say sod the housework..my house is a tip but we all have clean clothes and food (off clean plates lol) but it lessens the load a bit :-)! And 3 that young will always be hard work as people have not stopped telling me for the last 4 months… Sorry not really got any good advice but I may be back for some in a few months ;-)!
February 19th, 2009 3:23 pm
I totally know how you feel… Hang in there…
February 21st, 2009 3:56 am
Can I just say me too? Because damn. Me too.
February 22nd, 2009 3:52 pm
Wow, I can so relate to all this because I had a similar conversation with my husband recently about how grouchy I had become. It was quite a wake-up call for me and I’m trying to make sure I take things a little easier so I won’t be so hard on him.