Only One
June 23rd, 2009 | 
Author: I often wonder what it would be like having only one child , i imagine going about my normal day to day life with my little sidekick . Her and i doing everything together , from walking hand in hand to the local shops to spending the day doing crafts and watching movies.
Instead i have 3 children who always want something different , i hate letting the girls walk as if one walks the other moans and the two of them walking….well its not easy or pleasant . Crafts are a nightmare activity , Eilidh STILL eats and destroys everything . Normally the girls end up fighting and i end up frustrated.
I think of all the free time i would have with one , how un-chaotic life would be …Then i remember i actually like chaos . I think how hard it would be having to entertain one child all day long. I think about the girls running around playing games and loving each other. Just tonight Eilidh went to bed and demanded kisses from us all , she thought Rebecca was going to miss her and demanded a kiss from Nenah (her name from Becca) . After the kiss she just smiled and said “I like Nenah kisses” .
I love watching all three grow and become close , i love they will all have each other forever.
Sometimes though i manage to squeeze in some one on one time and its such a wonderful treat. This afternoon while Rebecca was at nursery my sister offered to take Ru out (he was having one of those fussy days where he did not want down but was not happy up either) , she loves taken him out alone and for once i agreed .
I was left just alone with Eilidh and as it was a lovely sunny day we took a walk to go and get some ice cream.
I really is so easy just going out with one, she happily walked along beside me - only running away when i said it was ok (when there was a long path or patch of grass in front of us) . We chatted and she commented on everything from the trees to birds to path and road …every minute she would add “i like ice cream” (she loves saying I Like just now).
We went to the shops and both bought an ice cream , we sat outside the shop and eat them up.
The cheeky little imp kept stealing little bites of mine but of course i was not allowed anywhere near hers.
We started to head home after it but with plenty of time still to pass, we were to pick my niece up from school at 3 and it was not yet 2. We took a detour to a park and played on the slide, swings and climbing frame (giggling together as i gave them all a go)
It was just such an awesome day, i have laughed so much and loved just hanging out with Eilidh. My sister has offered to take the kids anytime i want and i think i may take her up on the offer soon , leaving her with Eils and Ru and taken Rebecca out for some one on one time. I get excited just thinking about it.
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June 23rd, 2009 1:55 pm
as a soon to be mum-of-two (with a 22m gap) I loved reading this post. Thank you. So many people try to scare you! But I’m just too excited to get scared
It would be nice to have two boys so they could be as close as your girls 
June 23rd, 2009 2:05 pm
I loved this post. I have also wondered (especially when being pulled 27 different directions at once) how it would be if I just had one child instead of three. But in the end I couldn’t imagine my world without all three of them and all of the chaos that comes with them. It is nice to get some time alone with just one of them now and then though.
June 23rd, 2009 3:30 pm
One on one time is great and I love it…but I couldn’t imagine my kids not having each other….how lonely would that be all the time.
June 23rd, 2009 4:52 pm
What a brilliant post. Yes life is hectic with more than one child, but when you can spend time with each of them alone sometimes, it is special and precious. How lovely for them to have each other growing up
June 24th, 2009 10:34 am
That was sweet. The other day my sister took all the kids but the baby and my hubby and I almost didn’t know what to do. It was weird giving all our focus to just one instead of three. Though I do understand just having one as well. Emma turned 4 a month after TS was born (wasn’t an easy decision to have more considering her health problems, so there is a larger gap than we would have liked). So we had a while just with Emma. The hard part was always trying to entertain her. It was lonely-ish for her, mainly as she got older because she wanted playmates, not a parent, to play with her. It’s been SO nice having more kids. But it gets rather chaotic and busy all the time now. Those quiet one on one times are so special. Having two wasn’t much of a challenge for me (probably had to do with the age difference and TS bring SO easy going) but three makes my hands full! I do want another one…or two.
June 24th, 2009 1:12 pm
Sounds like a wonderful day! As an only child, I can’t tell you how many times I wished for a brother or a sister. I’m sure they like their alone time every once in a while, but have a sibling is something special.
June 25th, 2009 9:09 pm
what a sweet post! there definitely are pros and cons to both ways…but one thing for sure is that your kids will have a wonderful lifetime bond. I feel badly for not giving Nadia that.